How Can I Validate That Awful Person? Part 1

What does people want in a relationship? What they want is Validation. Validation. Validation. I state it three times because it is a very, very, very important thing. Validation. And what does validation mean?

Validation means that you find the other person, every other person, intelligent and attractive. And, if possible, wonderful and enchanting. Jejeje, I know what some of you may be thinking. “But how will I find him or her intelligent and attractive, if he or she is an awful person, a son of a blip blip blip? But my boss is a horrible person. My husband is a drunkard and a womanizer. My former friend is a bitch, who tried to steal my husband”.

To answer this, first you need to learn how to discriminate. Discriminate means to recognize a distinction, to differentiate. You need to learn how to discriminate between your real You, your Being, and your false Ego.

You would need to know who you are, and who the other person is, who any other person is. And you need to know what is called “the conscience of unity”. These two are the two underlying truths of all noble truths.

When a man asks a mystic, who I am? The mystic´s correct answer should be: “I don´t know. I am an ineffable, fathomless mystery.” This is comparable to “The Tao of which we can speak is not the true Tao”. That´s because I am unknowable, fathomless, ineffable. You are unknowable, fathomless, and ineffable.

But an approximation would be: I am. Or I am that I am. 

Walt Whitman starts the “Song of Myself” stating, “I celebrate myself, and what I assume you shall assume, for every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you.” Leon Felipe paraphrases him as follows: "I celebrate myself and I sing to myself. And what I now say about me, I say about you, because what is in me, is also in you, and every atom of my body is yours too."

What am I? I am. I am. I am. There is no need for more. But we like more. That is why I Am said to Moses. Ok. Here´s more: I Am That I Am. Incapable of defining or restricting Himself, He only says “I am That I Am”, or Being, What Is. That is what Jehovah means. The Being. Or the Spirit. Or, if you are a Hindu, the Aum. Or the Universal Mind. Or the Creator. Or Light. Or the Word. Or, as the Kybalion states, the All or the Substantial Reality underlying all the outward manifestations and appearances which we know under the terms of “the material universe”.

What am I? This may be answered also using any of the attributes of the Being. Since we cannot talk about what the Being is, because the Tao of which we may talk is not the true Tao, the God of which we may talk is not the true God, we however may talk of his or her attributes, through which it may manifest in external life. Freedom, Love, Happiness, Peace, Wisdom. Every positive quality is an attribute of the Being.

That is why Ancient Wisdom says, “God is Love”. And Love implies an essential morality, which means not to intentionally harm oneself or others. If we Are Love, we Love everybody and everything. No exceptions? No exceptions.