How Can I Validate That Person? Part 5

Now that my dad passed away, the challenge is for my mom, who feels alone. She requires a strong determination to continue her life; and as for me, as well as for other relatives, we have the strong determination to overcome our individual pain, and cheer her up. Please remember that the release of my book The Secret Way of Alice in Amazon, has been rescheduled for April 22.

An example of a strong determination, a deep personal commitment, an inflexible decision to carry out your desire or the idea or project you want to manifest in external life, is the oath of honor of Simon Bolivar, a Venezuelan politician of 19^th Century, who contributed to the political independence of six South American countries from the Spanish power. Well, today I feel sympathy for Spain, and in fact I am Mexican and Spaniard, thanks to laws that permit double nationality. Of course, Simon Bolivar knew he should not swear in vain, and declared, "I swear before you, I swear by the God of my parents, I swear by them, I swear by my honor, and I swear by my country not to give rest to my arm nor rest to my soul until I have broken the chains that oppress us by the will of the Spanish power."

Wow! What an expression of right resolution, of deep personal commitment! That´s the model, or one model of what our firm determination should be to carry out our desire, our main project, and to have it be in alignment with the essential truths we have learned and comprehended.

We could rephrase it as follows, "I swear before you, I swear by the God of my parents, I swear by them, I swear by my honor, and I swear by my country not to give rest to my arm nor rest to my soul until I have broken the chains, attachments and suffering that oppress me by the will of what my mind has been until today."

This means as if we said: by “the will of myself”, but it would be more exact to say by “the will of the stuff that has been gathered in my subconscious mind.” Or, even better, by “the conditioning of my culture that I have in the past absorbed and accepted.”

This is powerful. This is the gift of power for you today, from Simon Bolivar.

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Travis Arias

I´m here for you…

I invite you to achieve your deep transformation.

How Can I Validate That Person? Part 4

I am mourning the death of my dad. The release of my book The Secret Way of Alice is postponed, for now, for April 22, but I will confirm it. The actions of preparation to launch the book require an amount of energy that I am still gathering.

It is absurd and ridicule to talk bad of others, because you and all those others are the same Being, just manifested through a different vehicle. The same electricity illuminating through different light bulbs. When you offend someone, you are offending yourself, and you are addressing your offense to the Spirit, of course, since the Spirit is in all of us.

Jose Marti, a Cuban hero of 19^th Century, stated the idea of right talking in a beautiful way. He said, “Words are useless if they do not carry behind them a clean and honest heart, if they do not create, if they do not clarify, if they do not add, if they do not attract. Words are useless if they do not carry behind them a clean and honest heart.”

Suppose you are going to speak. Think before speaking. Will your words create, clarify, add or attract? No? Please be quite. My mother used to say, “You have lost the brilliant opportunity to remain quite, to remain silent.” Create as opposed to destroy. Of course I do not mean “Be creative in you insults”. No, no. Listen with your heart. Create with your words. Clarify as opposed to confounding the other person. I do not mean “tell him clearly what all his defects are”. No, no, no. I mean work to make yourself understood, kindly, and thinking of the life situation in which the other person is. The same with add. Add constructively, positively. Do not add misery to insult. Do not pour lemon over the hurt. The same with attract. Be nicely attractive.

Every word you speak is an affirmation or a negation of reality. There are many schools that teach you to select carefully and repeat constantly specific positive affirmations or decrees, because your words affect your subconscious mind, and help to determine your life.

Buddha was very clear too. His Eightfold Noble Path starts with practicing Right Vision. This means seeing or comprehending the four noble truths which will be discussed in our last lecture (and we would add the two essential underlying truths). The second stage of the noble path is Right Resolution. 

Once you know the theory, once you see or comprehend the essential and noble truths, many people do not have the discipline enough to practice it along their lives.

It takes a firm resolution to do it. A firm decision to be congruent, to ensure that every thought, every action, and every word you think, do and say, are aligned to or consistent with the essential and noble truths. That means you must be alert, aware of yourself, you must remember yourself, well, all time. Not just fifteen minutes a day, or not just during your meditation time. All day. Well, all day today. Or just right now, in the present. And then in the next present moment, and so on and so forth.

Travis Arias

I´m here for you…

For your deep transformation.

How Can I Validate That Person? Part 3

My dad just died ... He passed away on March 29. The last two days he wanted to be alone. He did not want to talk. He wanted to be alone, with himself, as if preparing to make the great transition. He passed away without physical pain… Now he is at peace.

The theory tells us that death is a transition to a different state, and that in itself, it is not a bad thing. But for those around a loved one, and despite the theory, it is a difficult experience… very difficult. More difficult for my mom. Anyway…

This has also meant that the release on Amazon of my book, The Secret Path of Alice, has been postponed again, now for next Saturday, April 8.

I have told you that validation means that you find the other person, every other person, intelligent and attractive. And, if possible, wonderful, and enchanting. I know what some of you may be thinking. “But how will I find him or her intelligent and attractive, if he or she is an awful person, a son of a blip blip blip? But my boss is a horrible person. My husband is a drunkard and a womanizer. My former friend is a bitch, who tried to steal my husband”.

I have also told you that to answer this, first you need to learn a certain discrimination.

Through space there are multiple cosmic rays traveling. Every night we see a myriad of stars, each one sending its light through space. And those cosmic rays are also energy. Scientists are still studying how energy permeates the universe. Maybe it its full of Higgs bosoms, which manifest as energy fields throughout the universe, including through you and through me. You don´t see them, but they are here, and there, and over there too. Energy impregnates the universe.

In it we live, we move, and we have our being. Energy is everywhere. Now, just change the name, and say, for example, “spirit” or “conscience” or “light”. It takes your form, your body, and then we know that you are a portion of light named Jane or John or whatever. You and I are the spirit living through you, trying to manifest itself through you, seeing through your eyes, hearing through your ears, touching through your hands. That is what we call conscience of unity. The appearance of separation is just an illusion. We are all the same, part of the same vast ocean of light.

Imagine the ground in a town. Visualize the soil passing through different houses and through their gardens. It is the same soil. You build a gate, and you see two houses separated by the gate. But underlying them, it is the same soil, which is not interrupted. Chemists would say it does not interrupt continuity. It is the same soil. There is an underlying unity of soil, and the different houses give us the appearance of separation.

Timbiriche, a Mexican pop music group, sang with whole wisdom: “You and I are One and the Same” (of course they had another context). But that phrase it true. Maybe you watched a film called “What the Blip Do We Know!?” In a scene the protagonist suddenly sees each other person as herself. 

Suppose she is Mary. She sees Maries all over the city. At the cinema, in the street, everywhere. Everywhere she looks around, she sees Maries.

You and I, and he, and she, we are all the same. A portion of space or, if you rather, a portion of light with a name, with a label.

Travis Arias

I´m here for you…

For your deep transformation.

How Can I Validate That Person? Part 2

I have been out of circulation a few days because my dad is in the process of dying. The doctor has said that the outcome may occur at any time, but no more than a week or two, or perhaps a little more. He has no pain (which is a privilege in his agony), but he is weak, very weak, every day weaker ...

This has also meant that the release on Amazon of my e-book The Secret Way of Alice, has been postponed from Saturday March 25 to the following Saturday, April 1.

I have told you that validation means that you find the other person, every other person, intelligent and attractive. And, if possible, wonderful and enchanting. Jejeje, I know what some of you may be thinking. “But how will I find him or her intelligent and attractive, if he or she is an awful person, a son of a blip blip blip? But my boss is a horrible person. My husband is a drunkard and a womanizer. My former friend is a bitch, who tried to steal my husband”.

I have also told you that to answer this, first you need to learn how to discriminate. Discriminate means to recognize a distinction, to differentiate. You need to learn how to discriminate between your real You, your Being, and your false Ego.

The clearest answer I have seen to the question what am I? has been elaborated by the Hermetic Teachings, summarized in a small book called “The Kybalion.”

The Hermetic Teachings state that the Creator or the All –although unknowable- is an infinite living mind, and all the phenomenal world or universe is a mental creation of the All. The All is in all, the All is immanent in every part, particle or unit within the universe, including rocks, plants, animals, and the human being. Being immanent means that the All is remaining within, is inherent, abiding within the human being.

There is a clear illustration as follows. Imagine that the All, the Spirit, is the ocean, and I am a drop of water. The drop of water cannot say “I am the ocean”, since every other drop would laugh at it. 

However, the ocean is immanent in the drop of water, and the drop of water participates of the nature and attributes of the ocean.

Today physicists agree with Ancient Wisdom that everything is made of tiny particles or waves of energy interacting ones with others, That includes a table, the air, a wall and, yes, you and me! There is energy all over the universe. You are just an incorporation of energy, taking the form of a human being.

Physicists also agree that the distance between one particle of energy and other are as distant in proportion as a planet is distant to another orb, star or planet. Between them there is space, a vast expansion of space. That is why my former teacher told my daughter. “Who are you? “Or “What are you?” “You are a portion of space named Annia”.

Travis Arias

Yo estoy aquí para ti

I´m here for you

How Can I Validate That Awful Person? Part 1

What does people want in a relationship? What they want is Validation. Validation. Validation. I state it three times because it is a very, very, very important thing. Validation. And what does validation mean?

Validation means that you find the other person, every other person, intelligent and attractive. And, if possible, wonderful and enchanting. Jejeje, I know what some of you may be thinking. “But how will I find him or her intelligent and attractive, if he or she is an awful person, a son of a blip blip blip? But my boss is a horrible person. My husband is a drunkard and a womanizer. My former friend is a bitch, who tried to steal my husband”.

To answer this, first you need to learn how to discriminate. Discriminate means to recognize a distinction, to differentiate. You need to learn how to discriminate between your real You, your Being, and your false Ego.

You would need to know who you are, and who the other person is, who any other person is. And you need to know what is called “the conscience of unity”. These two are the two underlying truths of all noble truths.

When a man asks a mystic, who I am? The mystic´s correct answer should be: “I don´t know. I am an ineffable, fathomless mystery.” This is comparable to “The Tao of which we can speak is not the true Tao”. That´s because I am unknowable, fathomless, ineffable. You are unknowable, fathomless, and ineffable.

But an approximation would be: I am. Or I am that I am. 

Walt Whitman starts the “Song of Myself” stating, “I celebrate myself, and what I assume you shall assume, for every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you.” Leon Felipe paraphrases him as follows: "I celebrate myself and I sing to myself. And what I now say about me, I say about you, because what is in me, is also in you, and every atom of my body is yours too."

What am I? I am. I am. I am. There is no need for more. But we like more. That is why I Am said to Moses. Ok. Here´s more: I Am That I Am. Incapable of defining or restricting Himself, He only says “I am That I Am”, or Being, What Is. That is what Jehovah means. The Being. Or the Spirit. Or, if you are a Hindu, the Aum. Or the Universal Mind. Or the Creator. Or Light. Or the Word. Or, as the Kybalion states, the All or the Substantial Reality underlying all the outward manifestations and appearances which we know under the terms of “the material universe”.

What am I? This may be answered also using any of the attributes of the Being. Since we cannot talk about what the Being is, because the Tao of which we may talk is not the true Tao, the God of which we may talk is not the true God, we however may talk of his or her attributes, through which it may manifest in external life. Freedom, Love, Happiness, Peace, Wisdom. Every positive quality is an attribute of the Being.

That is why Ancient Wisdom says, “God is Love”. And Love implies an essential morality, which means not to intentionally harm oneself or others. If we Are Love, we Love everybody and everything. No exceptions? No exceptions.

The Key to Relationships: Love and Validate Others

Oprah Winfrey tells us that the key to relationships is to validate others. I add: do it with love. All people have one thing in common: they all want validation. They want to know: Do you see me? Do you hear me? Does what I am saying mean anything to you? Validation means that you may tell them: I see you. I hear you. And what you say matters to me.

Validation means that you consider the other person as intelligent and attractive. And if you want to practice an upgraded validation, add this: find the other person wonderful and enchanting!

Validation may start with compliments. With showing approval. With making the other feel accepted.

To tolerate the anxiety of allowing people to disapprove of you.

Jessica Cohen suggests three important ways to provide validation:

Be physically present. When you are with someone, really be in the moment with them. Make eye contact during conversation and avoid unnecessary distractions.  Let that person know you care by giving them your full attention. Give a hug, a pat on the shoulder or hold a hand when it is needed.

Be empathetic.  When you feel sympathy for someone, you recognize their emotional response to a situation.  As Oprah stated, people simply want others to understand them.  Our innate ability to see an issue from another person’s perspective is authentic, it is real and it provides validation.

Be an active listener.  Active listening is focusing on the conversation at hand and nothing else.  It means giving the other person your full attention.  It is a sign of consideration and respect. 

Validate others, but do not try to be validated. That is freedom. Try to be self-validated. Remember the Prayer of Saint Francis: Grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console; to be understood as to understand; to be loved as to love.

We may add: Grant that I may not so much seek to be validated as to validate!

But a friend of mine asked me: how can I validate that awful person?

The answer to this question will be in my next blog.

Love surrounds you

Love surrounds you

Tony de Mello tells us a nice story about some people who have suffered a shipwreck off the coast of Brazil. They had drifted for several days on a rickety raft, and were about to die of thirst. You know that we cannot drink the sea water because it is so salty that it is not drinkable for the human being. Instead of quenching thirst, it exacerbates it, damaging our body, and in the case of shipwrecks in the open sea, ingesting it accelerates death, instead of slowing it down.

Then, being in the sea off the coast of Brazil, they did not drink the water that surrounded them, and were about to literally die of thirst. However, these castaways did not know that the Amazon River empties its fresh water with such force on the sea, that for some kilometers the sea is “a sea of ​​fresh water”, before beginning to dilute and become a normal sea of saltwater. They had no idea that the water they were floating on was fresh water, water they could drink. They had no idea that this was their Reality.

It is like the fish in Kabir's poem, who says, “I laughed when I was told that the fish in the water was thirsty.” Of course, the fish do have an organism equipped to drink salt water. And yet the poet Kabir says, “I laughed when I was told that the fish in the water was thirsty.” You would have to talk to that fish and tell him, “Are you a fish in the water? Mm-hmm. Are you a fish? Mm-hmm. Are you thirsty? Oh, come on! It's ridiculous. All the ocean water surrounds you. How can you be thirsty?”

In the same way, freedom, love, happiness, peace, and wisdom surround you. They impregnate you to the marrow of the bones. But, if you're like most people, you have no idea about this. You have no idea that you are like the shipwrecked people with plenty of fresh water, fresh water everywhere. You are a fish and you are looking for the ocean.

If that's your case, it's as if you've been brainwashed, or hypnotized. You are sleeping. Imagine a magician in the theater who hypnotizes someone so that the person sees things that do not exist, that are not there (unpleasant emotions, which do not belong to the realm of Reality, but to false delusion). And the hypnotized person cannot see what it is there in Reality. Well that's what happens.

The Reality is that abundant freedom, love, happiness, peace, and wisdom surround you. They are like juicy and delicious fruits that are within reach of your hand at all times. Come on! Wake up and stretch your hand! There it is… there it is… Stretch your hand and grasp the act of loving, your freedom ... Love means to feel: “I am here for you.” Freedom means to feel love at this moment without attachments or unpleasant emotions… Smile. You have it. Do not let it go. It's yours…

Learn to Listen

Learn to Listen

The way to plenitude has some requirements. A very essential requirement is your ability to listen. Listening is uncommon. People hear all the time, but rarely do they really listen. It has been said, with a better translation: he that has ears to hear, let him listen. How come? We all have ears to hear. Yes, but we do not use them to listen. In order to understand wisdom, you need to use what has recently been called active listening, or empathic listening. At least, sympathetic listening. There are whole courses to teach people to practice active listening.

The essential point in the art of listening is that you put yourself in a receptive, receiving mode. You are normally like a glass full of muddy water, full with your preconceived ideas, biases, thoughts referred to spiritual development, interpretations of your past experiences, unpleasant emotions, strong opinions, etc…, which fill your glass with muddy water. It is so full, that such muddy water reaches the edge of the cup and spills out. Nothing can enter into your glass, which represents your mind.

In order to listen, what you need to do is to empty your glass. You may pour your substance into a, let us say, a cup of tea, that you have available, and let your glass crystal clear, empty, ready to receive new ideas or, better, the Ancient Wisdom.

That does not mean that you are going to swallow what you are going to listen. No, no. When Do what Socrates recommends. He said that an unexamined life is not worth to be lived. Therefore, please examine what you have read or listened to, and then you may reach your sound conclusions.

My daughter, when she was a child, used to tell me the following joke: there is a duck at the edge of a pond (more common versions place a man in a bar). He has a banana in his ear. So he could hardly hear. I doubt if I should tell him the problem that he cannot listen because he has a banana in his ear. Maybe he will be upset if I get close to him and tell him what is wrong with him.

Finally, I took courage, and decided to tell him the truth:

“Hey, Sir, excuse me, but you have a banana in your ear.”

“What?” The man cannot listen to me, so I cry loud.

“I say that you have a banana in your ear”.

“What?”  The man still cannot listen to me. I speak still louder.

“That you have a banana in your ear”.

“Sorry –said the man- I cannot listen to you because I have a banana in my ear”

Je, je. You know. He knew the problem, but he did not do anything to solve it. He kept the banana in his ear, and could go on unable to listen.

So, my dear friends. Please assume an active, alert and emphatic attitude, put to work your whole attention, with all your soul, with all your strength, with all your mind, with all your heart, please be present here and now, empty your glass of water, take your banana off your ear, and listen…

A Tale of the Dervishes

A Tale of the Dervishes

Once upon a time the Teacher of Moses called upon mankind with a warning. At a certain date, he said, all the water in the world which had not been specially hoarded, would disappear. It would then be renewed with different water, which would drive men mad.

Only one man listened to the meaning of his advice. He collected water, and went to a secure place where he stored it, and waited for the water to change its character.

On the appointed date the streams stopped running, the wells went dry, and the man who had listened, seeing this happening, went to his retreat, and drank his preserved water.

When he saw, from his security, the waterfalls again beginning to flow, this man descended among the other sons of man. He found that they were thinking and talking in an entirely different way from before; yet they had no memory of what had happened, nor of having been warned. When he tried to talk to them, he realized that they thought that he was mad, and they showed hostility or compassion, not understanding.

At first, he drank none of the new water, but went back to his concealment to draw on his supplies, every day. Finally, however, he took the decision to drink the new water because he could not bear the loneliness of living, behaving, and thinking in a different way from everyone else. He drank the new water, and became like the rest. Then he forgot all about his own store of special water, and his fellows began to look upon him as a madman who had miraculously been restored to sanity.

Dear reader, are you like the man who collected his water, or like the other sons of man? Please examine yourself… If you were in the case of that man, would you also choose to become mad like the rest of the people? If you have drunk of the water that makes people mad, would you like to find the fresh water and drink it? Please examine yourself…

Do you want Healing or Just a Remedy?

Do you want Healing or Just a Remedy?

A problem of most spiritual seekers is that they only want a remedy for the temporary conflict they have at that time… a short-term remedy. You have a strong pain, and you take a strong analgesic. The analgesic remedies the pain, the symptom, but it does not operate on the root cause of the disease. Remedies only touch the surface, but they do not reach deep into your Inner Self, they do not heal your soul.

This Blog is a kind of practical course so that you gradually go deep into your inner being, and achieve for yourself an integral, holistic healing.

Eckhart Tolle tells us of a psychoanalyst who, after several years of treating a patient, gave him his five thousand-page file, and said, “Here is all the information about you.” Thousands of pages of “content” related to the subconscious mind. But a natural reaction of the patient would be, having the voluminous record in his hands: “Well, what do I do with this?”

Therapies usually remedy problems, but usually do not achieve a complete, complete cure. Tony de Mello says that many people came to his practice to raise the conflicts about their relationships and their communication with their friends and relatives. Many times, therapy provided some help, some remedy. But, he says, I often wondered if it was right to give him or her that remedy, because its effects are temporary, and the patient is still asleep and subject to the tangle of unpleasant attachments and emotions.

In extreme cases, of psychosis or true severity, therapy is not only useful, but necessary to reduce such an agonizing state, such acute despair.

But, Tony tells us, in ordinary, not extreme cases, it may be preferable, instead of giving him or her such a remedy, to allow the problem and conflict to grow, until he reaches a point where he says, “I am fed up with everything! I need to wake up.” Maybe then he will have the motivation, the impulse to change, and to persevere in such change, practicing the necessary discipline, strict observance of the spiritual path.

In theory, complete healing could be achieved in three minutes if the person attained an understanding of Reality, and made the inflexible decision to drop his or her unpleasant attachments and emotions.

However, 90% of people require to follow a path, to follow a process, a discipline of one to three years, depending on how strict is the observance of techniques or methods of cleansing the link that connects you with the Spirit.

In language courses, there are schools that tell you: “Learn Spanish in six months.” And you're off with the feint. In six months, you manage to hold a conversation, yes, it is true… but mastery of a foreign language requires three to five years.

In the matter of spiritual development, the same thing happens. There are now numerous short courses of three to six months. Of course, they are useful (as the Spanish you learn in six months is useful), but at the end of those courses you realize that you are only at the threshold of initiation of the full path.

We also have access to weekend retreats or one-day seminars. These are useful because in them you can have a moment when you decide a crucial change. Moments of clarity and outstanding understanding. Some call it a turning point or “a moment of aha!”, a moment in which “get it or grasp it”. In other short retreats or seminars, they give you the tools to, after you leave them, you develop a plan of action to change, to take control over your life. You should have a life project.

A day or a weekend, in theory could be enough to generate the change, but usually they are not enough. Normally a seminar or a one-day seminar is conceived to sow in you a seed that in another time can flourish. For such seed to flourish, your task is to cultivate it. You do not have to examine under the ground your roots every day, but if you take care of the seed with love, and if you provide it with that water, which in spiritual writings has been called aqua viva, living water within you.

I invite you to seek not a remedy, but your complete healing. Keep in touch with this Blog. Let your health gradually permeate you…

Unconditional Freedom

Unconditional Freedom

We may enjoy unconditional freedom, unconditional love, unconditional happiness.

Tony de Mello told me that people tend to desire conditional happiness. “I am ready to be happy provided I have this or that or the other thing.” Or something like this: “You are my happiness. 

If I don´t get you, I refuse to be happy.”

Maybe you cannot conceive of being happy without those conditions. Those conditions are what we typically call attachments.

Let me tell you a story.

Once upon a time there were two friends, Vany and Bella. When they were fifteen years old, they went with their classmates and teachers to a visit to an art gallery. There they saw a beautiful painting. They were enormously impressed… It was a landscape…  A green field full of flowers of multiple colors. A nice girl with a spring dress that matched the scene. A marvelous blue sky with white clouds… The peace of the scene and the combination of colors grasped the feelings of Vany and Bella. They were captivated, ecstatic. Both wanted to own it!

Five years later Bella was married to a prosperous young man. She told him about the beautiful painting, and he bought it for her. When Vany, which at this time was married too, visited Bella, she almost died, full of envy! “How come you bought the painting I like!” Vany suffered because she wanted to have it at her house. She started pressing Bella to sell it to her. She insisted for years… three years, until Bella finally sold it to Vany, and replace the painting with other nice one.

Vany was thoroughly happy! Finally, she owned the painting. It was in her leaving room. She used to sit down at her favorite armchair in front of the fireplace, and watched at it for hours. She felt completely satisfied.

Two years later Vany´s husband had some financial problems, and he had to sell all the art works he possessed, including the marvelous painting. He sold all of them to an art gallery. Vany felt desolated. Instead of feeling satisfied for hours every day, she cried for hours every day. She sat at the same spot. She didn´t kindle the fire, since she felt depressed. She even didn´t turn on the lights, since she preferred to suffer her depression in the darkness.

Once Bella visited an art gallery, and she saw the painting. She felt it was strange to find it again! She didn´t know about the financial problems of Vany´s husband. She thought that maybe the taste of Vany for that particular painting was ephemeral, and that she had finally got rid of it. Bella liked the painting too much, so she asked her husband to rebuy it, and he did.

On Bella´s birthday she threw a party, and Vany was one of her guests. Imagine Vany´s surprise when she saw what she considered her painting in one of Bella´s walls. “Noo! You can´t do this to me!” “What did I do to you?” “You have my painting. I will never forgive you!”

During the following days, Bella considered Vany´s reaction. She knew it was not justified, and she didn´t like the idea of being subject to a sort of emotional blackmail. However, well, she like the painting, but she did not feel attached to it. And she had other nice art work too. So, as she loved Vany and was sensible to her special life situation, she decided to give the painting to Vany as a gift. Now she knew Vany could not afford to pay for it.

Vany was thrilled! She didn´t change herself for anyone in the world! Again she place the painting in the old spot, above the chimney, and spent hours and hours delightfully watching at it.

Until… one day Vany´s marriage deteriorated. She and her husband were divorced. A Saturday morning Vany went to have breakfast with her mother. When she came back home, Vany´s husband had taken some stuff to the new place where he was moving… including the painting!

Vany was truly upset, angry. She called her now ex-husband, and told him that the painting belonged to her, since it was a gift from Bella. But her husband replied that when Bella formalized the transaction, she made the paperwork naming him as the new owner (for Bella, at that time, it was the same thing to set forth in the paper the name of Bella or that of her husband).

So Vany was desolate again. She was attached to her now former husband and to the painting, and she had lost both.

Bella was happy with or without the painting. She was not attached to it.

Dear reader, examine your own reactions. Are your reactions like those of Vany, or like those of Bella? 

Examine yourself… If you are like Bella, congratulations! You are now closer to the plenitude which lies at the end of the process of spiritual development. If you are like Vany, you have an option: go on suffering, or resolve to change, starting right now!

I invite you to examine yourself, and to congratulate yourself, or to start changing right now, as the case may be.

Knocking for Help

Knocking for Help

Spirit is constantly knocking the door of your soul. We are used to pray, “Our Father who is in Heaven, Your Will Be Done in Heaven as in Earth. Heaven means your inside realm, and Earth means the external realm of manifestation.

What is His Will? His Will is that we manifest His attributes: freedom, happiness, love, peace, and wisdom.

How come we do not manifest those wonderful attributes in our life?

Alice was crying so much, that she was drowning in a pool of tears. Why?

Are you, dear reader of this Blog, like Alice, crying so much, that you are drowning in a pool of tears? Why?

Here is the answer from Ancient Wisdom.

The human being as we know him, is not fulfilling his purpose of manifesting the attributes of the Supreme Being. The cause of this is that since you were a child, you absorbed a cultural conditioning which resulted in your sorrowful condition of expressing negative, unpleasant, irritating emotions, and developing attachment to persons, things, ideas, and situations.

Since you could not thoroughly process such emotions and attachments, you started to gather them in your subconscious mind, and those emotions became blocks like heavy rocks that blocked the passage of the higher attributes, which could not anymore pass through your subconscious mind.

The connection with the Spirit was lost. You need to clean the link that blocks you from connecting and uniting with the Spirit on a permanent basis. The book I am about to publish, which title has changed to The Secret Way of Alice, explains -as much as an explanation can be provided in this matter- how to clean the link with the Spirit. In the meantime, in this Blog I can give you some hints that will prepare you to start working right now in a direction leading to clean the link and reestablish your connection with Your Divine Self.

Here is a hint… Spirit is constantly knocking the door of your soul. But you are filled with subconscious blocks, so you shot the door. You don´t open the door to the Spirit, Who is trying to descend into you, and to manifest through you. That is His Will: to descend into you and manifest His attributes through you!

But in order to do that, He needs… your help! That is because He, even though He is all powerful, He decides to respect your Free Will. He will not impose on you. That is not His Will… to force you to act as He, with His Divine Compassion, would like you to act.

Do you think that His Will is our attachment to persons, things, ideas, or situations? No, no, no. The truth is that our attachments are an expression of our free will.

The truth is that, except for physical harm, nobody, nobody, nobody can help or harm you. You harm or help yourself. The role of the teacher is not to help. A true teacher only models, dances his own dance, exhibits his attainment or, in words of Jesus, just bears testimony of the truth. The rest is your choice, your work, your decision. If you want to wake up, great! If you do not, great too! It is your personal decision, your personal responsibility, not mine or any other person´s.

Even God does not give you any special help. He (or She) is continuously knocking your door, that is the extent of His help. He is continuously trying to descend upon you, continuously trying to manifest through you, but He will not impose on you.

So, you are the one who can help Him and yourself, by cleaning the connecting link with the Spirit, so that He may manifest through your conduit, through your vehicle. Then you may start dropping your attachments and your unpleasant emotions. Do not blame you, it is not your fault. It is the programming of your culture that you have received…

But now, today you know that you can help yourself. The time for self-complacency is over. Today, now is the time to change yourself.

You may start to help yourself by letting Him guide you. Give yourself permission to be guided! Start acting as a conscious conduit for the Only Being, for the Spirit. This way you are starting cleaning your link with the Spirit!

When Should We Wake Up to Love

When Should We Wake Up to Love?

When should we awaken to love and freedom? Once upon a time Tony de Mello heard on Spanish television a story about this gentleman who knocks on his son´s door, and tells him:

Father: “Jaime, wake up!”

Jaime: “I don´t want to get up, Papa.”

The father shouts: “Get up, you have to go to school.”

Jaime: “I don´t want to go to school.”

Father: “Why not?”

Jaime: “Three reasons. First, because it´s so dull. Second, the kids tease me. And third, I hate school.

Father: “Well, I am going to give you tree reasons why you must go to school. First, because it is your duty. Second, because you are… forty-five years old! And, third, because you are the headmaster!”

Dear reader of this Blog: Wake up! Awake to love! Wake up to freedom! When should we wake up to love and freedom? Today! Today, at this moment, at least start your process of awakening! You are no longer a child. Maybe you're not Jaime's age, but you're too old to be asleep anyway. Awake! Stop playing with your toys.

Most people tell us that they want to grow, but they prefer to continue in kindergarten. People just want to repair their broken toys, their attachments ... Give me back my partner! Give me back my job! Give me back my money! Give me back my reputation, my success! This is what most people want… to strengthen their attachments. People just want their toys repaired or replaced. That is all. 

Many psychologists say that most people do not really want a cure, an integral healing. What they want is just relief, an aspirin.

The thing is that… you get relief from outside. Deep healing must start from within… it's up to you, and only to you, to carry it out.

Waking up to life is a very pleasant thing, it is a wonderful thing… But when someone tries to wake you up without your consent, without you request, or because you feel it as an obligation (for example, if you need to go to work) oh! Sometimes you do not like it. You say, “I'd rather sleep a little bit more.” Or at the weekend, you sometimes say, “Mmm… it is delicious to sleep. I´m going to wake up late, too late!”

So, for it to be wonderful, the awakening, the awakening to love and freedom is something that must come from you, from your desire, from your decision.

I do not write this Blog to wake you up. I just invite you to do it. Oh, how joyful I would be if I could see you waking up! I am giving you tools so that you can use them, so that you wake yourself up. I have already awakened, so now the meaning of my life consists in the joy of seeing others wake up. I deeply appreciate those who stimulated me, who enthused me to access peace, happiness, and wisdom.

Oh God! What a wonderful life! That's why Alice went into Wonderland. She realized that this is a wonderful world.

I dedicate myself to experience freedom, and to love…  I invite you to do the same. I invite you intimately to think thoughts of loving-kindness, to feel feelings of loving-kindness.

You can do that today. Right now. At this time. That is the beginning of awakening. Try to keep yourself in that state of loving-kindness as long as possible. At least, until we meet again through this Blog.

We are building a community of readers of this Blog. Anyone who reads it, is reading it because he wants to start generating vibrations of loving-kindness. You want to start generating noble and elevated thoughts and feelings ... and the whole of our noble and elevated thoughts is forming a vibratory mold that stimulates us all ...

Wake up! Right now! Wake up to freedom, to love, to happiness, to peace and wisdom! Feel that you are free right now. Loves everyone from this moment on, just like the sun gives its light generously for all, without excluding anyone. Just like the rose spreads its fragrance for all that comes close to it, without excluding anyone. Yes, you can! Try it now! Now! Feel yourself impregnated with bliss right now. Feel peace and wisdom. Feel… feel… feel… be still… be still… feel and enjoy your life from this moment.

Accept my invitation. Wake up now, please!